Stop Risking Your Future and Your Influence On Your Children By Quitting. Live With Purpose Today!

22 Apr Stop Risking Your Future and Your Influence On Your Children By Quitting. Live With Purpose Today!

A few years ago, I posed a question to some parents that I know. “How many parents feel that you had to sacrifice your own goals and dreams for the sake of your children?” About 50 percent said that they felt that they had to. One mother said, “I feel guilty when I am doing things for myself.”

WHEN WE AS PARENTS QUIT ON OUR PURPOSE, WE PUT OUR FUTURE AT RISK. QUITTING CAN AFFECT OUR IMPACT ON OUR CHILDREN.

The person that you were before kids didn’t disappear into thin air. That person is still there. Being a parent doesn’t replace your purpose. It is still living on the inside of you waiting to show itself strongly.

More than likely you always wanted children, but you didn’t realize how much love you would have for your child. You want to give them everything you didn’t have. If you were like me, the mistake that you made was that you started to sacrifice everything; including the dreams that you had before children. There is just one problem with this.

We can’t teach what we haven’t lived.

Every good parent wants the best for their child. I want my children to know who they are, find their purpose, and fulfill their purpose to the highest level that God has for them. I must fulfill my mission so that I can be an example to my children. Parents are the best role models (most of the time).

How can we show our children how to fulfill their purpose, if we are not fulfilling ours?

How can we teach them to do something that we are not doing ourselves? The answer is that “We CAN’T!”

My Story

After graduating from Bible School, I moved back to Florida, and I became a Youth Pastor. This was a great time in my life, and I had lots of fun while pouring into teenagers and young adults as well.

At this time I was married, and we had two children in two years (the second one was a “surprise”). When this happened, I immediately felt overwhelmed and decided it was time to step down. I REGRET THAT DECISION TO THIS DAY.

The truth was that I made this decision based on unresolved issues in my life. I told myself “You are being a great dad and putting family before ministry.” That sounds great and the concept is a great concept, but the truth was that I was afraid and I made a decision in fear.

No decision made in fear is a good decision.

I had more for those teenagers that I bonded with but I didn’t continue in my purpose because I was afraid.

I believe God placed me there for a purpose. Yes, some of that purpose was fulfilled, but there was more to do. Those teenagers were waiting for me to walk in my purpose with full commitment. I was recently reminded by one young lady how shocking it was for her when we stepped down.

Someone is Waiting On You

Fathers and mothers, someone is waiting on you to do what you were created to do. God gave you that dream knowing that you would have children. Don’t make the mistake that I did and give up on those dreams. There is a purpose that lives inside of you.

Keep this in mind. You love your children, and God loves them more. He will take care of them. He will take care of you. Don’t wait for the perfect time; it will never come. Today is the day to jump.

Talk to Me…

• Have you given up on a dream after having children? If so, what is that dream?
• What can you do today, to start making that dream a reality again?

Read More

• To read more about my story go to thepurposefulparentbook.com